Does everyone need psychotherapy?
I do not think so. There is a common idea that people go to a psychologist to finally start dealing with what does not suit them. But for me that is not quite right.
The thing is, one way or another, we are already coping every day.
You may be unhappy with your job, or with your relationships with a partner, parents or friends; you may be under constant tension or feel stuck in a dead end.
The question is not about starting to deal with your life. We already deal with it daily.
The question is how we do it: we dare to speak about some things and stay silent about others, bury ourselves in work, wait for everything to somehow improve by itself, or replay the same thoughts again and again hoping for a different result.
Absolutely everything, our actions, our words, the decisions we make or fail to make, is our habitual way of coping.
For me, psychotherapy is just one of the ways to look closely at this “how”. Not the only one, and not at all mandatory.
But if you notice that your usual way no longer brings relief and you want something different, this is the right time to ask yourself:
“How am I dealing with my life right now, and does this way suit me?”
And if you want it to be different, psychotherapy is exactly the space where you can explore that.
